Friday, August 17, 2018

Well, I Guess I've Grown Up

I have a little perspective.

I've now been a single father for more than 13 1/2 years, a year longer than I was married. That is mind-boggling to me.  I've grieved the loss of my beautiful, loving wife, Lori. I haven't shared this before now, but I was lucky enough to be with Lori, holding her hand, in her last moments. I've raised our two, beautiful and intelligent daughters who are studying in college and my now 14-year old "Favorite Son" since he was seven-months old. I fell in love with an extraordinary woman, the second great love of my life. She and I were engaged, un-engaged, lived a lifetime in 6 1/2 years, and ended our relationship last springI've taken responsibility and I've forgiven. I've experienced a thousand successes and as many disappointments. I've tried to handle it all with grace, but I haven't always been able to. I'm getting better at it, though.

Before we can grow up, we fall in love three times.
First, we fall in love with our best friend who teaches us about true friendship.
One time, we fall in love with a person who we believe is perfect.
This love teaches us that no one is perfect and
that we should never allow ourselves be treated as any less than we deserve.
Finally, we fall in love with someone just like we are.
We discover the person we are and the person we want to become.

Well, I guess I've grown up.

This is the first new post I’ve done in a while and I haven’t done much recently to promote older posts either. I think I've been on what some people might call a bit of a Sabbatical, although I didn't travel far from home. While I was "away," I've appreciated the readers who’ve continued to visit The Single Fathers Guide Blog for support, advice, and insights to help single dads raise successful, independent children while creating a fulfilling life for themselves. Our single father community has a pretty strong foundation for which I am thankful.

Me and my business partner, former While
You Were Out
cast member Ali Barone.
So, I’ve been out there, trying my best to practice what I’ve preached, I'm undertaking a couple of new business endeavors including a shared work space my business partner, Alison Barone, and I call Dream Worx where remote workers, small business, owners, and creatives can work together for greater individual and collective success.

Kappa Delta Jordan.
My little girls aren’t really little girls anymore. They are young women. Jordan and Katie, who are 21 and 18-years-old, respectively, are home from school. Jordan will be a senior at the University of Missouri and in about a year, will graduate, with honors, having earned a B.S. in Biology. Having finished her first year as a biomedical engineering major, Katie is back in New York after her first year in New Orleans at Tulane University. She crushed the School of Engineering “weed-out” classes achieving a grade point average north of 3.7. Both girls are working as nannies this summer and, sadly, I don’t get to see them very much. Such is parenting. They’ll both be back in school soon.

The Favorite Son finished his first year at a new school a few weeks back and adjusted swimmingly. He made an impact both on the athletic fields, having scored a hat trick in his first soccer game, and in the classroom, achieving, for the first time ever, the honor roll in a rigorous academic environment.

Laissez les bon temps roulez, Kate.
I continue to write The Single Father’s Guide Blog because I am, in fact, still single. I'm putting the finishing touches on my next non-fiction title, Getting to First Base: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating, which I expect to be available before Father’s Day 2019. I’m also writing a new novel and a very unique memoir. Both should be interesting.

The long and short is, starting today, I’ll post new blogs (almost) every Tuesday. Brimming with momentum and ample material from which to draw, I hope you continue to find The Single Father’s Guide Blog informative, helpful, and entertaining.

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