Friday, March 22, 2013

What is a Platonic Female Friend?

Men don’t ask for directions when they’re lost. They’re more likely to either stay lost or, possibly, consult a manual.

Both in The Single Father’s Guide to Life, Cooking, and Baseball and during the numerous radio and television interview I’ve done in support of the book, I’ve referenced what I call “Platonic Female Friends,” or PFF’s.
What is a PFF?
A PFF is a woman, who is typically but not necessarily the wife of one of your good friends, for whom a single father (hopefully it’s obvious) has no romantic intention, and who can be a resource to whom the single dad can go for parenting and life advice from the perspective of the fairer gender.
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Why are PFF’s important?
When was the last time, single dad, you talked with your buddies about how to get rid of  your infant’s diaper rash or what feminine products to buy for your adolescent daughters? It’s a rhetorical question.
As I’ve already mentioned, a PFF could the wife of a trusted friend, but there are others as well. If you’re a single father of young children, find or create a playgroup (using Meetup.com, your local library bulletin board, etc.) for your kids. In my experience, the vast majority of playgroup parents are mothers who, after realizing you’re a “stand-up guy” and genuinely concerned about the well-being of his children, will be happy to offer advice or help. Neighbors are also great for finding assistance. When my children were younger, two neighbors, one a stay-at-home mom and one a retired grandmother were indispensable. Of course, other PFF’s may also include your hair stylist, clothing salesperson, and others who may genuinely like you but will also want to help you so you become a repeat customer. Each will want to help you to look and be your best. These sorts of PFF’s are especially helpful when you, single father, decide it's time start to date again.
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In the meantime, don’t stay lost. Begin to develop those relationships with PFF’s. You’ll probably be surprised how willing to help those PFF’s will be.

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